A new study published in Psychology and Sexualitysurveyed 80 members of a couple, at least one of whom is bi-sexual, who had sought or were seeking a “unicorn,” i.e. a third partner to share sex and/or romance with both of them. Females are more often sought than males, which is unsurprising inasmuch as women are more often bi-sexual than men. 79% reported that their relationship was strengthened in terms of communication, trust, openness, sexual novelty, and overall happiness. However, couples reported that finding the right person is difficult and that maintaining an ongoing relationship with that person is more often a goal than a reality. Concern with the unicorn’s desires and needs is typically subordinate to realizing the couple’s objectives. Consequently, unicorn hunting has a bad reputation even within the broader polyamory community, which itself faces marginalization and negative judgments.
Hunting Unicorns
